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Hello all, I have been getting readings with one of the psychics here for over 3 years on a very important person for me, someone I felt a very strong emotional connection to and who I believed was a soulmate. The psychic always saw us eventually dating and being in a romantic relationship. Once I started seeing signs of this man being committed to someone else, the psychic dismissed it and insisted that it was not more than just a fling. Sadly after a while I found out that it was indeed a longterm committed relationship and they were already moving in together. I was devastated :( not only for having believed and done all I could to get closer to him over these years but also for having felt like I was being gaslit once I was honest about what I see about this man in real life. The psychic said they are not responsible for the messages they hear from their guides and she saw what she saw…Has anything like this happened to anyone else and how did you deal? It truly hurts because I feel like I ok top of having been wrong about feeling such a strong connection to this man, I also had been told untrue things by the psychic at the same time in reality things were literally the opposite :(

First, I’m really sorry you experienced that. I think sometimes people can become emotionally attached to a certain outcome and readers may unintentionally feed hope instead of focusing on the current reality and emotional patterns surrounding a situation.

Psychic readings should provide guidance and insight, but they should never replace your own intuition, discernment, or real-life actions. Energy can also shift over time due to free will, choices, and changing circumstances.

Please do not blame yourself for trusting what you were told. Many people seek readings during emotionally vulnerable periods because they genuinely want clarity and comfort. The important thing now is focusing on your healing and rebuilding trust within yourself again.

A good reading should leave you feeling empowered and aware, not emotionally dependent on predictions alone.

As a psychic myself, I just want to say I am truly sorry you experienced this. I think sometimes in this field people forget how deeply clients emotionally invest in what they are being told, especially when readings continue over a long period of time about someone they love very deeply. While I do believe readers can genuinely pick up on energy, potential, emotions, or spiritual connections, no psychic should dismiss reality that is unfolding directly in front of a client. Energy can shift, people have free will, and sometimes what is felt psychically is not what ultimately manifests in the physical world. That is why it is so important for readers to stay grounded and honest about limitations instead of speaking in absolutes. I am not taking away from any advisor or what they may have said to you because I do not personally know your situation, but from the sound of it, this seems like it became a repeated cycle, and I can understand why that would feel very disappointing and emotionally exhausting. I also know that sometimes clients do not always follow the guidance they are given and may hope for miracles or specific outcomes, so I cannot fully speak on your particular circumstances. However, regardless of any reading, I truly believe no one should make major life decisions or remain emotionally invested in a situation solely based on psychic advice alone. That is also why I believe psychic readings should be used as guidance and insight, not as something to build your entire future around. Energy changes, people have free will, and not every connection unfolds the way it appears spiritually or emotionally. I also want to gently say that having a strong soul connection with someone does not always mean they are meant to become our romantic partner. Some connections come into our lives to awaken us emotionally, spiritually, or personally, even if they do not become the relationship we imagined. That does not make your feelings fake or foolish. The connection may have been very real to you, even if the outcome was different from what you hoped. Personally, what I gather from your energy, the situation, and the overall outcome here is that this connection may have reached its natural end, and the focus now needs to shift toward healing and acceptance. I know that is probably not easy to hear, especially after investing so much emotionally into this person and the future you hoped for. But sometimes part of the spiritual lesson in these connections is learning when to release what no longer aligns in reality, even if the emotional bond still feels very strong. At this point, I feel your energy would benefit more from grounding, healing, and reconnecting with yourself rather than continuing to seek answers about this connection. Healing does not mean the connection meant nothing. It simply means accepting that not every deep soul connection is meant to become a lasting romantic relationship. I do not think anyone is ever intentionally wrong with bad intentions, but at the end of the day no psychic is 100% accurate. Readers interpret energy to the best of their ability, and sometimes energy can shift, people can make different choices, or what is being sensed simply does not manifest the way it initially appeared. That is why I always believe readings should be taken as guidance rather than absolute certainty. It is important to stay grounded in reality and in your own intuition as well, especially when it comes to major emotional or life decisions. I truly am sorry this situation caused you pain, and I hope moving forward you are able to focus more on your healing, clarity, and emotional peace.

What is meant for you will always be.

Alana

Thank to you both, but how do you deal when during several readings, over months and months, the psychic kept dismissing any of my claims that the reality I saw was different from their vision? Saying they couldn’t agree with it because that is “not what they feel about the situation”?

hey mariannn! sometimes when that’s the case.. i would go with your own intuition and get a second opinion from another reader. receiving intuitive readings can be a great check-in, insightful and validating.. but they’re meant also for you to bounce off that energy and lean back into your own intuition to guide you. at the end of the day.. no one knows yourself and your situations better than you.

Hi Marin. If they have the opinion and can’t agree…then that’s what it is. Their opinion. You can respectfully disagree with them, that is your option. Hear the opinion and move on. You’re not captive to anyone’s opinions Marin. It’s your life. Readings should never be used as absolutes. They are not guaranteed. Like Jade mentioned, using your own intuition, making your own choices, using your own judgement, is what it is about, and only you know yourself truly, and know your own situation the best.

I can understand why that would be frustrating. It is very possible that what the psychic was seeing differed from what was actually happening in your life at the time. While a psychic can only interpret the energy they are receiving, your perspective and lived experience are equally important especially when your real-life experiences are consistently showing something different than what is being interpreted through a reading.

Sometimes strong emotions, deep investment in an outcome, or intense energy around a situation can make it more challenging.

I think the important part now is not focusing so much on the reading and focusing on the healing for yourself.

Not every client and advisor will agree, They could actively still be seeing a vision for you that you do not see for yourself but I agree with Jade, I agree with Gemini readings are meant to be a guide but not an ultimate decision and you know your situation better than anyone else.

I wish you the best of luck

Alana

This happens, yes. I think the problem is layered.

Many readers assume we know more than we actually do, and many clients come in with expectations about what intuitives can achieve that may not always reflect reality. Regardless of what someone believes about intuition, readers are still human beings. We have strengths, blind spots, biases, personal beliefs, and moments where our interpretation can be wrong.

No reader ever sees enough to have a complete view of a situation. If we become too certain, too attached to our interpretation, or too unwilling to admit when we may have missed something, that can become a problem. In my view, one of the most important qualities an intuitive can develop is humility. Being intuitive does not make someone infallible.

What concerns me most about your experience is not that the reader was wrong. Readers can be wrong. What concerns me is that you repeatedly noticed signs in reality that suggested something different was happening, yet your observations were continually dismissed.

A reading should never require you to abandon your own judgment.

Everyone is different, but I personally stress growth and the importance of helping clients learn to trust their own intuition and, equally importantly, what they see with their own eyes. Telling someone that things will improve when there has been no sign of improvement for months is not helpful. It can unintentionally keep a person attached to hope while discouraging them from fully evaluating what reality is showing them.

Readers can be very good at detecting patterns, emotional undercurrents, or subtle signals, but we still have to interpret what we sense. Our personal experiences, beliefs, fears, desires, and assumptions can influence that interpretation. That is why self-awareness is so important in this line of work.

Any intuitive professional should understand that what we sense is not necessarily the truth itself; it is our interpretation of what we believe we are perceiving. If we are not careful, we can become attached to our own narrative and begin filtering out information that contradicts it.

What stands out to me in your situation is that you were not simply given an inaccurate prediction. You were repeatedly encouraged to doubt your own observations when those observations were providing evidence that something else might be happening.

Whether that comes from overconfidence, bias, wishful thinking, or genuine belief in one’s own impressions, the effect can be the same: a client begins to lose trust in their own judgment.

I am sorry you experienced that.

Not only did you have to come to terms with the reality of the relationship, but you also had to face the disappointment of realizing that the advice you trusted did not align with what was actually unfolding. That can feel like a double loss.

Intuitives are like any other profession. There are excellent, average, and poor practitioners. There are ethical and unethical people. Some welcome being questioned, while others become defensive when challenged. The profession itself does not remove ordinary human limitations.

One thing I would encourage is caution with anyone who presents future outcomes as certainties. Even if someone believes they are perceiving future possibilities, life contains countless variables, choices, and circumstances that no individual can fully account for. It is often more useful to think in terms of possibilities than guarantees.

I would also be cautious with any reader who consistently dismisses your instincts, observations, or concerns about your own life. No matter what a reader senses, they can never know your lived experience better than you do.

When a client tells me something feels off, I encourage them to explore why. If some real-world facts and observations support what they are sensing, they deserve serious consideration, whether or not they align with my own impressions.

The goal is not for the reader to be perfect. The goal is for the reader and client to work together. Ideally, it is a collaborative process in which intuition, observation, experience, and critical thinking all have a place in the rubric we use to assess a situation.

The lesson I would take from this experience is not that your intuition failed you, nor that all readers are dishonest. It is that no outside voice should ever become more authoritative than your own direct experience.

When what you repeatedly see in reality conflicts with what someone is telling you, that reality deserves respectful examination and possibly incorporation in the scheme of what is being discussed.

Trust your intuition. Trust your observations. Trust your ability to reason through what life is showing you. Those things should work together, not compete with one another.

I am truly sorry for what you went through, and I wish you the very best moving forward.

Hey!

So this can happen for a number of reasons, I would say one thing is that there are many advisors that will just tell you what you want to hear, to have those payments keep coming in. A lot of advisors will not want to admit that, but its the reality of things. Some people are just not genuinely connected.

Another thing that can happen is that energy shifts, We are reading into the current path of energy. Like a river forging a canon, although many of our predictions can be super on point, the energy sometimes can take unexpected turns.

Sorry that you went through such an intense experience. I know situations like that can truly hurt so much, but I do sense that things are going to improve as you come to release this situation.

Looking for authentic insight without all the hocus pocus? I’d love to help guide you on your path forward. Whether you’re seeking clarity in love, career, personal growth, or life’s bigger questions, I offer honest, compassionate guidance to help you move forward with confidence and understanding.

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Hello Dear, I want to start off by saying that I am on a bit of a different path than some Love and Relationship Advisors. Maybe my perspective will be a bit different, but hopefully it will help you. I am a Love and Relationship Advisor, but I am also a Christian Psychic. Sounds very strange to hear those things together, right? I know! But regardless, that is my path. I feel that there are Advisors that will tell you what you want to hear, for a few different reasons. Maybe they want to keep you coming back for more readings. Also, they may not have the heart to tell you the truth, because they do not want to hurt your feelings and let you down. This is where morals and ethics become very important, also the desire that they have to be the best Advisor they can be, and why they want this job to begin with. If you are connecting to Divine Source as an Advisor, you are not going to be guided to lie and give false truth. You will be guided to give the full truth, and do so in a loving and encouraging way. You can call this source God, or Divine Source. it really does not matter. What matters is where the messages are coming from. I will say that I do not feel that this person you have been asking about is a Soulmate. I am sorry to say this, but I want to be very honest with you. I do feel that you are meant to have a divine ordained relationship, but I do not feel it will be with this person. Moving forward when you are looking for an Advisor, I recommend looking for someone with natural abilities/abilities and someone who not only connects to Divine Source, but someone who has experience in love and relationship readings and guidance. I hope that this was helpful. Sending Love

PS: It is important to trust your own inner guidance, yes. But you are on a site looking for help, so it is important to connect with someone you trust and someone who is grounded and professional. Grounded Advisor = grounded readings and guidance. There are people who can discern outcomes, but someone who can predict things to the date, that is a red flag for me. I do have the ability to see relationship outcomes, because that is a gift I was given by Divine Source. But I do not provide dates, times, anything like that. My advice is to be cautious of those sorts of readings.

It is completely understandable to feel discouraged after a long period of searching without the results you’re hoping for. When you have been single for a long time, it is natural for the frustration of dating to make the future feel uncertain and even bleak. I hear the weight behind your question—not just about the future, but about the exhaustion that builds after years of disappointment. It takes courage to keep asking, and I would love to explore these energies with you in a more personal, direct way. I invite you to join me in a live chat session, where we can look at the specific patterns and influences surrounding your love life. Together, we can move past the general uncertainty and focus on practical, actionable insights to help you gain clarity and prepare for the connection you are seeking.Diana

Your going through a tough time the setting feels toxic in energy this person isnt alright, your are going through and bad energy vibration with them.. please help yoru emotions and heart look some where else help your energy you are a good person you deserve the best trust your self.

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My dear, I am sorry that you experienced this. This is such a painful place to be. You aren’t just heartbroken and hurting over a man who wasn’t available but also stuck feeling like you can’t even trust your own eyes because someone was overriding what was right in front of you. That is a brutal combination. I want to be very transparent that this doesn’t mean that Psychics are fake or that you were wrong to believe it. Sometimes energies really can shift and outcomes can change. There was a post I saw in the comments about it being a red flag if a Psychic can predict timing and I honestly do not agree. I have predicted timing countless times and love outcomes but I also do fully believe that outcomes can shift – especially time frames that are further out in the future. Sometimes readings can reflect a real emotional or energetic connection between two people and be mistaken for a romantic future, sometimes a psychic can have difficulty telling someone what they need to hear, sometimes it can be the clients own longing that is coming through so strongly that energies can be misinterpreted, symbols can be filtered through someones own blindspots and hopes (the reader) but it is always important to revisit and correct a reading when reality is contradicting it because the clients real world reality should never be dismissed. It should be okay for a psychic to admit when they have made a mistake or explain why they may have been picking up on those energies. My love – when I have taken a look into these energies I am receiving a message of peace and moderation. This doesn’t read as this person carrying very heavy, suppressed feelings but a lot more like emotional neutrality – likely because his emotional life has been balanced into this other area of his life. This energy often comes up when someone has made peace with a situation. Your relationship with this person may be something collaborative or skill based? Almost looks like some kind of working or cooperative connection that was shared – where there was respect for the others contributions – maybe in a professional or creative context. Energies for fair exchange, perhaps a friendship that was close under these conditions… And sweetheart, I also get the sense here that this person holds regret and remorse for something. I am picking up on some energies for deception – or maybe withholding. Perhaps he feels that he was dishonest with you in the past but there might even be guilt that he had withheld his feelings in the past, too. I get the sense that this person was standing a threshold and chose a path that also hurt you, deeply. This is what I want to tell you though – there is real emotional openness that exists in this picture. I don’t mean necessarily between you and this person but your own heart’s openness and emotional opportunity that is present in your life. You have such a big heart to give, sweetheart. There is potential for PROFOUND love – and that is what Spirit is opening in your life right now even though I know that it doesn’t feel like it. Fate or the Universe is not withholding a soulmate from you but patience is required. What is coming will enter your life slowly. Forcing will not speed it up – and you are being asked to take those first steps to move forward. It is going to hurt but it requires hope for the future and releasing your attachments of the past to find what will truly fulfill you in love. Release any self – imposed limitations you may feel in this situation and there is freedom to move toward where you are being called. All will work out for you – this is not the end of the road and deep down you know this. I hope that this message finds you well and I wish you all my best, Brittny