is it really time to say goodbye or...?

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I know I keep bring up the same issue, but as soon as I feel I get it straight.. something comes up. I’ve been told by many on here my ex and I will eventually get back together, just will take some time. I even went to other trusted sites and they said the same things. I feel if so many different people are saying the same stuff..kinda has to be true. But ever since ex has gotten really involved w new gf, his actions toward s me have become more and more.. the opposite of what he said before in wanting me as a friend and in his life. That he cares”like a lot” for me. Been more and more a jerk, treating me like a rainy day friend.leaving me high and dry in very short conversation that only happen between certain times of the day. Increasingly lieing and b.s’n me. To the point I said I had enough and asked him strait up to stop this treatment and to say for sure if he really wants me as a friend in his life..but longer he takes to answer the more he sayn he doesn’t. He didn’t answer me..but days later he said he was hunting. He still could’ve answered or spared a min the days since. So he lied to me…I don’t understand his actions now..what’s making him do this to me? Basicly hurt me over and over? Does he even realize it? He has to right? I I asked him one last time if he wanted me as a friend and longer he waits to answer …he did answer right away but not to the friends question. I just basicly want answers. Told him I didn’t want to end it but that he pushed me too far. That its up to him now to show me he truly wants me as a friend. Havnt heard from him since..but its only been a week. Does he really not want me as a friend anymore? Am I really just being used or is there much more going on,? Please only true honest people answer me.. my heart can’t stand any more false hopes. And no I’m not waiting around for him. I just want answers. I know if we are meant to get back together it’ll happen..but its still nice to know if it was to happen. Or if its just friends

This man is not in love with you. You deserve better and will get it when you move on.

I’m sorry, Im not a psychic, but I just feel extremely drawn to your situation because I have been in something similar with a guy leading me on. Can I ask you one important question? WHY do you want to remain friends with him even though he has a girlfriend? You realize that is a toxic situation, and that is why you are feeling like you are in such heartache. It hurts to leave someone you fell in love with, but it hurts even more to remain in a situation where you intuitively know that you deserve better. Do you really feel good having this man in your life? He treats you horribly, as well as his new girlfriend. The fact that he is communicating with his ex while with someone else SHOWS something about his personality. You are inlove with the image you created of him in your mind, but compare your perception of him to HOW HE TRULY IS. This guy is draining all of the energy out of you and you are slowly dying. Not physically, but spiritually. I know you LOVED HIM WITH EVERYTHING YOU HAVE, to the point it feels like the world feels empty without him. But you have to become a survivor and not a victim. Its easier said than done, I know. I am currently in your situation, Who am I to be giving advice, but that is the interesting part, because as an outsider looking in I see how horribly your ex is treating you and you don’t want or deserve a man that treats you that way. A real man that loves you wont be hot and cold. He is not confused, he is simply sapping your energy because you let him. It is an ego boost for him. But deep down inside he knows what he has done by leading you on makes him a piece of shit, and I think a little bit of him feels bad about it, but he cant stop. Its a drug. He likes the feeling of having control over you even if he doesn’t feel anything for you anymore romantically. Reading your story has helped me open up my eyes to my story. That is the beautiful thing about life. A lot of times we suffer in misery, without knowing there are many people in our exact situation that can teach us about ourselves. I really hope you painfully walk away. I did. I miss him terribly everyday, but I knew I couldn’t remain in that situation.

I think part of it is when we were together we clicked extremely well and on many levels.he really did seem to care and on a level love me. And even after we broke up he wasn’t this way.and having so many say we would get back together after he gets things straightened out in his head, that he does in fact love me just is afraid of that fact because of his abusive past and being hurt by past gf.its Just after he got really involved w this new girl did he become the jerk towards me.within last two months. And its not like we hang out. Just text here and there about a prob or just to see how each other is doing. And as far as I know he treats her fine. But glad I could help Nikki..Lol even if its to see ones not alone I just want true answers. To heal my next question if he doesn’t love me..did he ever?

Yeah, my exact situation. We were eachothers best friend. I felt we connected deeply. I felt like I was the one person he could be himself around. He even used to fart while we would be cuddling with eachother and we would just laugh. (Kind of gross lol) he would say, I am one of the very few he could be his true self around. He would text me at midnight to tell him about issues he is having in his family and he has never let a girl see that side of him. I too had MANY if not all except for like 2 psychics tell me that he loved me, but he had commitment issues, he has been hurt by past relationships, etc. and eventually he will come back. We broke up in May. We decided to remain friends. And we were for a few weeks then suddenly we were texting one day and I didn’t hear from him after that. I was so depressed, I even had to go to therapy for a few weeks(didn’t help) I was like so is that it? Until one day I summoned up the courage to text him. This was in mid August. I said “hey stranger” and he was very receptive to contact. We began to speak on a consistent basis for the rest of that month. It’s like nothing ever changed. Fast forward, it is Labor Day. I was out with friends. We were texting all day as usual. Then mid conversation I stopped hearing from him. I became even more depressed than before. I didn’t understand why he kept doing this to me. But this time I had school and I could not waste too much time focusing on him. Fast forward October 11th. He texts me out of the blue. He asks me how I’m doing, we talk for about an hour. He told me about things going on in his life. I know even after all is said and done he finds me as someone he can confide in. Anyway so I say, “wow, it’s crazy we haven’t seen eachother since May” and he said “I know. I’m sorry I’ve been really busy” and I said. “It’s okay!” Then he says “if you like, would you like to meet up sometime. I’m free this weekend.” And I said “I’m working this weekend, how about next? We can watch a movie?” And he said ” definitely! I just need to check my schedule to see if I’m working. What movie should we see there are a couple that I know you would like. We could even movie hop lol” and we picked out 3 movies wanted to watch. Meaning we would have spent likely 6+ hours together. That was a good sign to me. So I text him a few days later because he never texted me to confirm our plans. I said “hey, what’s up?” And he said “nothing, and you?” and he seemed weird like he was disinterested so I didnt push the issue. I said “I’m just at work, doing nothing lol” and he replied “cool” and I didn’t hear from him since. That weekend went by. We didn’t see the movies. All of November came and left. Not once did he contact me explaining why he didn’t go through with our plans and why he started acting uninterested. I still haven’t heard from him, but that was my last straw. I said I don’t deserve this. I don’t care what his reasons are, I don’t need to be treated like this. Moral of all of this, I believe your guy loved you, and he probably does to an extent, but he is selfish. He is confused about what he wants, and he is putting it on your expense. He knows you will always be there. But that is not a good thing. It shows your self worth is low and that’s why he does this. I swore to myself that if I here from him again he will have to EARN his way back into my life. I want him to know that I won’t always be there waiting for him to figure it out, and yes I’m willing to risk the chance that he will never come back. But do you really want to be his back burner girl. The girl he always knows will be there? He needs to know you will always be there if he needs you when times get tough, BUT HE NEEDS TO APPRECIATE THAT AND NOT TAKE YOU FOR GRANTED. And not use you, show that he needs you, and you don’t need him. If I may ask, do you have self-esteem issues?

Yeah, my exact situation. We were eachothers best friend. I felt we connected deeply. I felt like I was the one person he could be himself around. He even used to fart while we would be cuddling with eachother and we would just laugh. (Kind of gross lol) he would say, I am one of the very few he could be his true self around. He would text me at midnight to tell him about issues he is having in his family and he has never let a girl see that side of him. I too had MANY if not all except for like 2 psychics tell me that he loved me, but he had commitment issues, he has been hurt by past relationships, etc. and eventually he will come back. We broke up in May. We decided to remain friends. And we were for a few weeks then suddenly we were texting one day and I didn’t hear from him after that. I was so depressed, I even had to go to therapy for a few weeks(didn’t help) I was like so is that it? Until one day I summoned up the courage to text him. This was in mid August. I said “hey stranger” and he was very receptive to contact. We began to speak on a consistent basis for the rest of that month. It’s like nothing ever changed. Fast forward, it is Labor Day. I was out with friends. We were texting all day as usual. Then mid conversation I stopped hearing from him. I became even more depressed than before. I didn’t understand why he kept doing this to me. But this time I had school and I could not waste too much time focusing on him. Fast forward October 11th. He texts me out of the blue. He asks me how I’m doing, we talk for about an hour. He told me about things going on in his life. I know even after all is said and done he finds me as someone he can confide in. Anyway so I say, “wow, it’s crazy we haven’t seen eachother since May” and he said “I know. I’m sorry I’ve been really busy” and I said. “It’s okay!” Then he says “if you like, would you like to meet up sometime. I’m free this weekend.” And I said “I’m working this weekend, how about next? We can watch a movie?” And he said ” definitely! I just need to check my schedule to see if I’m working. What movie should we see there are a couple that I know you would like. We could even movie hop lol” and we picked out 3 movies wanted to watch. Meaning we would have spent likely 6+ hours together. That was a good sign to me. So I text him a few days later because he never texted me to confirm our plans. I said “hey, what’s up?” And he said “nothing, and you?” and he seemed weird like he was disinterested so I didnt push the issue. I said “I’m just at work, doing nothing lol” and he replied “cool” and I didn’t hear from him since. That weekend went by. We didn’t see the movies. All of November came and left. Not once did he contact me explaining why he didn’t go through with our plans and why he started acting uninterested. I still haven’t heard from him, but that was my last straw. I said I don’t deserve this. I don’t care what his reasons are, I don’t need to be treated like this. Moral of all of this, I believe your guy loved you, and he probably does to an extent, but he is selfish. He is confused about what he wants, and he is putting it on your expense. He knows you will always be there. But that is not a good thing. It shows your self worth is low and that’s why he does this. I swore to myself that if I here from him again he will have to EARN his way back into my life. I want him to know that I won’t always be there waiting for him to figure it out, and yes I’m willing to risk the chance that he will never come back. But do you really want to be his back burner girl. The girl he always knows will be there? He needs to know you will always be there if he needs you when times get tough, BUT HE NEEDS TO APPRECIATE THAT AND NOT TAKE YOU FOR GRANTED. And not use you, show that he needs you, and you don’t need him. If I may ask, do you have self-esteem issues?

HI Tiffany,

If he isnt responding and is showing you he doesnt care, no matter what psychics say its time to let go and move on. Cristina (above) seemed to put it well. Its time to let go and move on and find someone who will return your love honestly and without the pain you seem to be going through now.

Blessings!

BLuedragon

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I do have self esteem issues..but I’ve been slowly getting better. I did put my foot down with him. I told him I’m sick of being treated this way and fighting for a person or relationships( I was saying this to so called friends too) that don’t seem to care or won’t fight for me. I’m done..I’m tired..its my turn. Its time someone fights for me. Proves to me they want me in their life. Its now up to you(him) to show me/ prove to me. But the longer you wait the harder it will be for you to earn me back. So I guess this is last attempt to get a straight answer from you(him) to answer a simple question.do u want me as a friend? He answered right away but not to the main question. To wear he waited days to respond before.he thinks by ignoring a prob it’ll just go away.I’ve told him several times before it just makes it worse.and my memory might not be great but I remember a lot of stuff he says. And can catch him changing his story or recall things hrs” forgotten” I’m sure he’s prob thinking if he waits long enough I’d calm down and everything be OK. Wrong.lol or hell come back saying I’m the one who doesn’t care just to push buttons. It won’t work. Told him he pushed me too far. I guess I’ll really see now. I know there’s times people start to value you more when you stand up for yourself. I’ve told him before In the past i don’t need him to valadate me..tell me I’m pretty..so on. I feel it I know what I’m worth. Its just nice to see others for a change tell u what you mean to them. I’m too much heart and too nice for my good.just wanting to help people, And I get used and stepped on a lot. I have only a couple true friends and even they’re too busy for me right now. So its nice to talk to someone who is going through the same thing as me..even if its a stranger. Thank you:)

basically from what ive seen so far real psychics are very rare. most paid psychics are fake either deluded that they have psychic abilities or purposedly cons. The paid real psychics will never have high prices. thats a proven fact for me. The most real though are the ones that are not paid, not advertised and try to keep their abilities quiet. u can only find them by word of mouth.

yeah, I wouldn’t know how to find them or even through word of mouth I havnt heard and I just moved back home to a small town to where people of abilities are not as taboo as they once were. and I cant afford anyone much over a $1, lol. ..and then you people saying..you get what you paid for..but I hear a true psychic is for helping the people more than the money,but they have to earn their wages too.i just don’t know..

ye real psychics are de facto the ones that 1. dont brag too much about their ability 2. dont commercialise their gifts they try to keep it in a small circle of clients 3. Dont charge high if they are paid. They earn just ebough to make a living without being greedy. But i strongly believe that the most accurate are the ones who are completely not paid and dont make a living from this.

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Tiffany…its been over a long time ago glad to see you connected with Vikki, good advice. Tell this jerk to take a hike the next time he contacts you and also, tell him to grow up and get a real life. You will meet someone new, don’t worry…you worry too much.

Sorry about that Nikki I typed from memory and thought it was Vikki…lol sorry about that.

I just re-read that ? did he ever love you? Don’t want to upset you but this guy has no idea of what love truly is he has to first learn to love himself and quit feeling sorry for himself. As for you….don’t let yourself fall back into his trap…stay away. You don’t need a Reading you just need to get a grip on yourself and realize you’ve wasted enough time and money on this guy …. so for now, get re-acquainted with yourself and you will realize you are a truly genuine person and this goof is so beneath you. Enough said?

Dear Tiffany,

Just because a lot of readers should you and ex your will get back together in the end does not mean that he will not have other relationships in between.

I remember the Actor George Segal said that if he and his current wife got married 10 years ago it would not have worked but it works now.

Of course both of them had other relationships before linking up together again.

However in say that I am not suggesting you put your life on hold just because you ex is coming back eventually according to a lot of readers. I do not know I have not read on this.

I am just saying you need to consider that he will have other relationships.

So should you – so YES you need to let me go for now – and find love for yourself. Why not? he has.

All the best ESTHER