looking back

10 days ago

something really complicated happened between us. Does he have bad feelings towards me?

9 days ago

Hi Angelina,

Thanks for this question.

I’m getting that at this time is important to resolve the conflict related to this experience.

Please, find here some practical steps:

1. Develop an awareness of the other person’s emotional state.

2. Demonstrate care and concern for the other person’s emotions by recognizing their validity and importance.

3. Practice empathetic listening to fully understand how the other person is feeling without judgment or an agenda to agree or disagree.

4. Validate the other person’s emotions by acknowledging and accepting their feelings as legitimate, without necessarily agreeing with their thoughts about their emotions. Help them label their emotions with words that fit the experience they are having.

5. Allow the person to experience their emotions fully without trying to fix or change them. Provide unconditional support and love, without imposing your own ideas or expectations of when they should move on or feel differently.

6. Only after validating and acknowledging their emotions, help the person develop strategies to manage their reactions to their emotions. Offer advice and new perspectives to improve their emotional state.

These steps will help process the emotions related to what happened.

I hope we can have a chat to see this situation in more detail.

All the best,